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02511aam a22003258a 4500 001 9AC737B86FF611E19F46C9D96AFF544E 003 SILO 005 20120317010050 008 110408s2011 nyua 000 0 eng 010 $a 2011013249 020 $a 1585428760 (pbk.) 020 $a 9781585428762 (pbk.) 040 $a DLC $c DLC $d SILO $d OCLCQ $d BKL $d UIB $d SILO 082 00 $a 158.2 $2 22 100 1 $a Alasko, Carl. 245 1 $a Beyond blame : $b freeing yourself from the most toxic form of emotional bullsh*t / $c Carl Alasko. 260 $a New York : $b J.P. Tarcher, $c c2011. 300 $a x, 319 p. : $b ill. ; $c 21 cm. 520 $a "The inspiring new book from the author of Emotional Bullshit reveals why no one is to blame-but everyone's accountable. For many, a rare day goes by in which the need to blame does not arise-be it to cover one's own errors or just to assign an unfortunate event some kind of name (i.e., "If only X hadn't said X, we wouldn't be in this mess.") And even for those who are somewhat better at keeping the impulse in check-it is still there. According to psychologist Carl Alasko, blame is such an intrinsic part of how we humans communicate that we rarely take a look at what we're actually doing-and how it can affect our relationships. In this book, Alasko reveals that the need to assign blame when something bad happens stems from a very deep desire we all share to "see justice done". Understandable when a grave crime has been committed, but it can become a dangerous habit if we begin to operate as though placing blame were somehow necessary if we want to change something or someone in our world. Yet this feeling that "someone has to pay" is seldom productive in initiating positive change. In Beyond Blame, Alasko teaches readers to recognize destruction that blame causes in their lives-oftentimes without their even being aware-and to put an end to it once and for all. The path to eliminating blame is not a quick or easy one but, as Carl Alasko demonstrates, it is a road that must be traveled if we hope to achieve true peace in our lives"-- $c Provided by publisher. 650 0 $a Faultfinding. 650 0 $a Blame. 650 0 $a Criticism, Personal. 650 0 $a Emotions. 650 0 $a Interpersonal relations. 941 $a 3 952 $l YEPF572 $d 20200204051447.0 952 $l TYPH572 $d 20200110033541.0 952 $l BOPG851 $d 20181006061400.0 956 $a http://locator.silo.lib.ia.us/search.cgi?index_0=id&term_0=9AC737B86FF611E19F46C9D96AFF544E 994 $a C0 $b UIBInitiate Another SILO Locator Search