Includes bibliographical references (pages 285-291) and index.
Contents:
Introduction: Who am I to say? -- Getting ready to talk. It's time to learn a new language ; Your new bag of tricks ; Conversation crashers -- The fourteen conversations. Talking about your parent-child relationship ; Talking about independence ; Talking about changing friendships ; Talking about creativity ; Talking about taking care of yourself ; Talking about fairness ; Talking about technology ; Talking about criticism ; Talking about hard work ; Talking about money ; Talking about sexuality ; Talking about reputations ; Talking about impulsivity ; Talking about helping others -- Now what? -- Appendix: Small talk conversation starters.
Summary:
The fourteen essential conversations to have with your tween and early teenager to prepare them for the emotional, physical, and social challenges ahead, including scripts and advice to keep the communication going and stay connected during this critical developmental window. "This book is a gift to parents and teenagers alike."-Lisa Damour, PhD, author of Untangled and Under Pressure Trying to convince a middle schooler to listen to you can be exasperating. Indeed, it can feel like the best option is not to talk! But keeping kids safe-and prepared for all the times when you can't be the angel on their shoulder-is about having the right conversations at the right time. From a brain growth and emotional readiness perspective, there is no better time for this than their tween years, right up to when they enter high school. Distilling Michelle Icard's decades of experience working with families, Fourteen Talks by Age Fourteen focuses on big, thorny topics such as friendship, sexuality, impulsivity, and technology, as well as unexpected conversations about creativity, hygiene, money, privilege, and contributing to the family. Icard outlines a simple, memorable, and family-tested formula for the best approach to these essential talks, the BRIEF Model: Begin peacefully, Relate to your child, Interview to collect information, Echo what you're hearing, and give Feedback. With wit and compassion, she also helps you get over the most common hurdles in talking to tweens, including: What phrases invite connection and which irritate kids or scare them off The best places, times, and situations in which to initiate talks How to keep kids interested, open, and engaged in conversation How to exit these chats in a way that keeps kids wanting more Like a Rosetta Stone for your tween's confounding language, Fourteen Talks by Age Fourteen is an essential communication guide to helping your child through the emotional, physical, and social challenges ahead and, ultimately, toward teenage success.
This resource is supported by the Institute of Museum and Library Services under the provisions of the Library Services and Technology Act as administered by State Library of Iowa.