Originally published: Colorado Springs, Colo. : Pinon Press, c2003. Includes bibliographical references (pages 287-292).
Contents:
Our lifelong search for truth -- Caught unaware -- Preparing to grow -- Twenty truths and twenty choices that can transform -- Thoughts about our birth parents are innate -- Painful feelings about our adoption are normal -- Learning about adoption dynamics will help us relax -- It may often seem like no one "gets it" -- Share deep feelings only with "safe" people -- We can control our anger : really! -- We can get unstuck from our painful past -- Many of us experience echoes of loss -- An hour with a fellow adoptee is better than therapy -- False guilt shouldn't stop us from considering a reunion -- Search and reunion may become a top priority -- We don't need to fear seeming ungrateful or disloyal -- We must give up being pleasers -- Taking concrete steps toward obtaining our pre-adoption history requires courage... we can do it! -- When we feel overwhelmed we must be gentle with ourselves -- Birth relatives may reject us, but there's someone who never will -- The word "rejection" may not be in the vocabularies of other birth relatives! -- Letting go of our birth mother's original decision will set us free -- Our footsteps are unique across the sands -- We can help others by being transparent -- Appendix -- Notes.
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