Preface -- pt. 1. Understanding your conflict -- Topic 1 : smart parenting during and after divorce -- Topic 2 : the common threads of conflict -- Topic 3 : assessing your level of conflict -- Topic 4 : the art of avoiding war: how to de-escalate conflict -- Topic 5 : seek neutral input to solve problems -- Topic 6 : how to negotiate with a reasonable co-parent -- Topic 7 : how to communicate with a reasonable co-parent -- Topic 8 : how to negotiate with a jerk -- Topic 9 : how to communicate with a jerk -- Topic 10 : how to keep your cool : anger management -- Topic 11 : revenge : a dish best not served at all -- pt. 2. Navigating the court system -- Topic 12 : do I really need to be in court? -- Topic 13 : preparing to interact with court-appointed professionals -- Topic 14 : appearing before a judge -- Topic 15 : the pitfalls of taking matters into your own hands -- Topic 16 : how to choose a lawyer -- Topic 17 : how to get along with a lawyer -- Topic 18 : how to tell whether your lawyer is doing a good job for you -- Topic 19 : when you want to fire your lawyer -- Topic 20 : when you want to complain about your lawyer -- pt. 3. Co-parenting successfully -- Topic 21 : telling children about divorce -- Topic 22 : changing notions of custody in society -- Topic 23 : co-parenting responsibilities of the custodial parent -- Topic 24 : co-parenting responsibilities of the visiting parent -- Topic 25 : moving and relocating -- Topic 26 : co-parenting in medical emergencies -- Topic 27 : telephone contact issues -- Topic 28 : the importance of sharing information -- Topic 29 : self-defeating behavior : overprotectiveness and rigidity -- pt. 4. Divorced parenting for ages and stages -- Topic 30 : special needs of infants -- Topic 31 : special needs of toddlers and preschoolers -- Topic 32 : special needs of five- to eight-year-olds -- Topic 33 : special needs of eight- to twelve-year-olds -- Topic 34 : special needs of teens -- pt. 5. Making visitation schedules work -- Topic 35 : understanding custody and visitation in relation to parenting influence and time -- Topic 36 : how to set up a temporary visitation schedule -- Topic 37 : how to set up a long-term visitation schedule -- Topic 38 : how to figure out holiday visitation -- Topic 39 : when to seek supervised visitation -- pt. 6. Dealing with common problems -- Topic 40 : when parents have different rules -- Topic 41 : discipline problems related to divorce -- Topic 42 : preventing common personal and social problems related to divorce -- Topic 43 : preventing academic problems related to divorce -- Topic 44 : visitation tantrums -- pt. 7. Special concerns and crisis situations -- Topic 45 : when your co-parent abuses drugs or alcohol -- Topic 46 : protecting yourself and your children against violence in the family -- Topic 47 : what to do when the other parent speaks negatively about you to your child -- Topic 48 : what to do when your child is acting out sexually during or after a visit -- Topic 49 : what to do when your child tells you he or she was hit at the co-parent's house -- pt. 8. Moving on -- Topic 50 : introducing your child to your new partner -- Topic 51 : stepparenting -- Topic 52 : your new beginning -- Resources -- Index.
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