Paperback. Includes bibliographical references (pages 184-189) and index.
Contents:
Introduction: Adoptee manifesto -- Part I: Discovering -- You should be grateful -- The adoptee lounge -- How much did I cost? -- My ghost kingdom -- The search -- Part II: Experiencing -- White privilege by osmosis -- Sandy the flower man -- Unclaimed -- Filling the void -- Survivor's guilt -- Sandy's death -- I'm still looking for my baby -- The "M" word -- Part III: Reckoning -- Us vs. Them -- The sondersphere -- An out-of-bounds love.
Summary:
Tucker is grateful for many aspects of her life, but being a Black woman adopted into a white family involved layers of rejection, loss, and complexity that cannot be summed up easily. She now serves as a mentor to other transracially adopted children and, in this book, draws from her experiences with mentees to invite a profound exploration of a complicatd system. Tucker offers practical tools for nuturing identity, unlearning white saviorism, and addressing the mistakes many adoptive parents don't even know they're making. She flips the script on 'traditional' adoption books written by adoptive parents or professionals to center the experience of adoptees themselves. These perspectives challenge the fairy-tale narrative of adoption, giving way to a fuller story that explores the impacts of racism, classism, family, love, and belonging.--Adapted from jacket.
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