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04964aam a2200301 i 4500 001 C9168BC2223711EFB457909958ECA4DB 003 SILO 005 20240604010036 008 240507r20242017nyu e 000 0 eng 020 $a 1668065967 020 $a 9781668065969 035 $a (OCoLC)1432813720 040 $a IOS $b eng $c IOS $d SILO 100 1 $a Kishimi, Ichir�o, $d 1956- $e author. 245 14 $a The courage to be disliked : $b the Japanese phenomenon that shows you how to change your life and achieve real happiness / $c Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga. 246 30 $a Kirawareru y�uki. 250 $a First Atria paperback edition. 264 1 $a New York ; $b Atria Books, $c 2024. 300 $a xviii, 270 pages ; $c 22 cm 505 00 $g The fifth night: To live in earnest in the here and now. $t Give meaning to seemingly meaningless life. $t Why people can change -- $t Trauma does not exist -- $t People fabricate anger -- $t How to live without being controlled by the past -- $t Socrates and Adler -- $t Are you okay just as you are? -- $t Unhappiness is something you choose for yourself -- $t People always choose not to change -- $t Your life is decided here and now -- $g The second night: All problems are interpersonal relationship problems. $t Why you dislike yourself -- $t All problems are interpersonal relationship problems -- $t Feelings of inferiority are subjective assumptions -- $t An inferiority complex is an excuse -- $t Braggarts have feelings of inferiority -- $t Life is not a competition -- $t You're the only one worrying about your appearance -- $t From power struggle to revenge -- $t Admitting fault is not defeat -- $t Overcoming the tasks that face you in life -- $t Red string and rigid chains -- $t Don't fall for the "life-lie" -- $t From the psychology of possession to the psychology of practice -- $g The third night: Discard other people's tasks. $t Deny the desire for recognition -- $t Do not live to satisfy the expectations of others -- $t How to separate tasks -- $t Discard other people's tasks -- $t How to rid yourself of interpersonal relationship problems -- $t Cut the Gordian knot -- $t Desire for recognition makes you unfree -- $t What real freedom is -- $t You hold the cards to interpersonal relationships -- $g The fourth night: Where the center of the world is. $t Individual psychology and holism -- $t The goal of interpersonal relationships is a feeling of community -- $t Why am I only interested in myself? -- $t You are not the center of the world -- $t Listen to the voice of a larger community -- $t Do not rebuke or praise -- $t The encouragement approach -- $t How to feel you have value -- $t Exist in the present -- $t People cannot make proper use of self -- $g The fifth night: To live in earnest in the here and now. $t Excessive self-consciousness stifles the self -- $t Not self-affirmation, self acceptance -- $t The difference between trust and confidence -- $t The essence of work is a contribution to the common good -- $t Young people walk ahead of adults -- $t Workaholism is a life-lie -- $t You can be happy now -- $t Two paths traveled by those wanting to be "special beings" -- $t The courage to be normal -- $t Life is a series of moments -- $t Life like you're dancing -- $t Shine a light on the here and now -- $t The greatest life-lie -- $t Give meaning to seemingly meaningless life. 505 0 $a Introduction -- The first night: Deny trauma -- The second night: All problems are interpersonal relationship problems -- The third night: Discard other people's tasks -- The fourth night: Where the center of the world is -- The fifth night: To live in earnest in the here and now -- Afterword. 520 $a "The Courage to Be Disliked, already an enormous bestseller in Asia with more than 10 million copies sold, demonstrates how to unlock the power within yourself to be the person you truly want to be. Using the theories of Alfred Adler, one of the three giants of twentieth century psychology, The Courage to Be Disliked follows an illuminating conversation between a philosopher and a young man. The philosopher explains to his pupil how each of us is able to determine our own life, free from the shackles of past experiences, doubts, and the expectations of others. It's a way of thinking that is deeply liberating, allowing us to develop the courage to change, and to ignore the limitations that we and other people have placed on us. The result is a book that is both highly accessible and profound in its importance. Millions have already read and benefited from its wisdom. This truly life-changing book will help you declutter your mind of harmful thoughts and attitudes, helping you to make a lasting change, achieve real happiness, and find success"-- $c Provided by publisher. 546 $a In English, translated from the Japanese. 700 1 $a Koga, Fumitake, $d 1973- $e author. 941 $a 2 952 $l TDPH826 $d 20240604011911.0 952 $l TCPG826 $d 20240604011325.0 956 $a http://locator.silo.lib.ia.us/search.cgi?index_0=id&term_0=C9168BC2223711EFB457909958ECA4DBInitiate Another SILO Locator Search