"Good people can be bad at relationships. One night during his divorce, after one too many vodkas and a call with a phone-in-therapist who told him to "journal his feelings," Matthew Fray started a blog attempting to piece together the story of how his ex-wife went from the 18-year-old college freshman who adored him to the angry woman who thought he was an asshole before she left him to have sex with someone else. It turned out that even though he was a decent guy, he was kind of a shitty husband. But as he shared raw, uncomfortable, and darkly humorous first-person stories about the lessons he'd learned from his failed marriage, a peculiar thing happened: Matthew started to gain a following. And in January 2016 a post he wrote titled "She Divorced Me Because I left the Dishes by the Sink" went viral and was read over four million times. Written from the lens of his own surprising, life-changing experience and his years counseling couples, Matthew Fray captures what is at the root of so many failed relationships. We simply haven't been taught any of the necessary skills. And in fact, it is sometimes the assumption that we are acting on good intentions that leads to alienating our partners and fomenting mistrust. A candid take and groundbreaking book on relationships that shows us that good people can be terrible partners and the ways we can strive to improve, no matter what stage of life we're in"-- Provided by publisher.
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