Includes bibliographical references (pages 227-228).
Contents:
Introduction -- Emotional Neglect Questionnaire -- Part I: Running on Empty. Why Wasn't the Tank Filled? The Ordinary Healthy Parent in Action -- Twelve Ways to End Up Empty. Type 1: The Narcissistic Parent ; Type 2: The Authoritarian Parent ; Type 3: The Permissive Parent ; Type 4: The Bereaved Parent: Divorced or Widowed ; Type 5: The Addicted Parent ; Type 6: The Depressed Parent ; Type 7: The Workaholic Parent ; Type 8: The Parent with a Special Needs Family Member ; Type 9: The Achievement/Perfection Focused Parent ; Type 10: The Sociopathic Parent ; Type 11: Child as Parent ; Type 12: The Well-Meaning-but-Neglected-Themselves Parent -- Part II: Out of Fuel. The Neglected Child, All Grown Up. Feelings of Emptiness ; Counter-Dependence ; Unrealistic Self-Appraisal ; No Compassion for Self, Plenty for Others ; Guilt and Shame: What is Wrong With Me? ; Self-Directed Anger, Self-Blame ; The Fatal Flaw (If People Really Know Me They Won't Like Me) ; Difficulty Nurturing Self and Others ; Poor Self-Discipline ; Alexithymia -- Cognitive Secrets: The Special Problem of Suicidal Feelings -- Part III: Filling the Tank. How Change Happens. Factors That Get in the Way of Successful Change -- Why Feelings Matter and What to Do with Them. Understanding the Purpose and Value of Your Emotions ; Identifying and Naming Your Feelings ; Learning to Self-Monitor Your Feelings ; Accepting and Trusting Your Own Feelings ; Learning to Express Your Feelings Effectively ; Recognizing, Understanding and Valuing Emotions in Relationships -- Self-Care. Learning to Nurture Yourself ; Improving Self-Discipline ; Self-Soothing ; Having Compassion for Yourself -- Ending the Cycle: Giving Your Child What You Never Got. Your Parental Guilt ; The Changes You Have Made So Far ; Identify Your Own Specific Parenting Challenges -- For the Therapist. Research ; Identification of Emotional Neglect ; Treatment ; Summary for the Therapist ; Conclusion.
Summary:
"This book is not about what happened to you as a child; it's about what failed to happen for you as a child. It's an extremely subtle, almost invisible factor called emotional neglect, and it disrupts one's life in untold ways. Psychologist Jonice Webb, PhD shows how emotional neglect in childhood has an insidious effect on us as adults, causing us to struggle with self-discipline and self-care, or to feel unworthy, disconnected, and unfulfilled. People experience childhood emotional neglect to varying degrees--from a few subtle but important events to an entire childhood that's defined by it. This is the first book to give it a name and delve into the profound and often perplexing ways it influences our adult satisfaction and happiness."--Publisher's description.
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