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03621aam a2200493 i 4500 001 56931B74A4EE11ECAB2946E12AECA4DB 003 SILO 005 20220316010009 008 210915s2022 nyu 000 0deng 010 $a 2021044334 020 $a 0063072262 020 $a 9780063072268 020 $a 0063072254 020 $a 9780063072251 035 $a (OCoLC)1257548902 040 $a DLC $b eng $e rda $c DLC $d OCLCO $d OCLCF $d NBT $d IOU $d SILO 042 $a pcc 082 00 $a 306.872 $2 23 100 1 $a Fray, Matthew, $e author. 245 10 $a This is how your marriage ends : $b a hopeful approach to saving relationships / $c Matthew Fray. 246 30 $a Hopeful approach to saving relationships 250 $a First edition. 264 1 $a New York, NY : $b HarperOne, an imprint of HarperCollins Publishers, $c [2022] 300 $a viii, 296 pages ; $c 24 cm 505 0 $a Introduction: The Stories We Tell Ourselves -- This Is How Your Marriage Ends -- Good People Can Be Bad Spouses -- The Invalidation Triple-Threat:The Danger Hiding in the Shadows -- Is Your Spouse Hurting You on Purpose? -- Words Don't Always Mean What We Think They Mean -- Move the Dots Closer: Key Relationship Skills to Practice and Master -- Marriage and the Man Card -- She Feels Like Your Mom and Doesn't Want to . . . -- Sex, Lies, and Internet Porn -- What Matters vs. What Doesn't -- Conclusion: The Art of Getting to Tomorrow. 520 $a "Good People Are Bad At Relationships One night during his divorce, after one too many vodkas and a call with a phone-in-therapist who told him to "journal his feelings," Matthew Fray started a blog attempting to piece together the story of how his ex-wife went from the 18-year-old college freshman who adored him to the angry woman who thought he was an asshole before she left him to have sex with someone else. It turned out that even though he was a decent guy, he was kind of a shitty husband. But as he shared raw, uncomfortable, and darkly humorous first-person stories about the lessons he'd learned from his failed marriage, a peculiar thing happened: Matthew started to gain a following. And in January 2016 a post he wrote titled "She Divorced Me Because I left the Dishes by the Sink" went viral and was read over four million times. Written from the lens of his own surprising, life-changing experience and his years counseling couples, Matthew Fray captures what is at the root of so many failed relationships. We simply haven't been taught any of the necessary skills. And in fact, it is sometimes the assumption that we are acting on good intentions that leads to alienating our partners and fomenting mistrust. A candid take and groundbreaking book on relationships that shows us that good people can be terrible partners and the ways we can strive to improve, no matter what stage of life we're in"-- $c Provided by publisher. 600 10 $a Fray, Matthew $x Marriage. 650 0 $a Marital conflict. 650 0 $a Marriage $x Psychological aspects. 650 0 $a Married people $x Psychology. 941 $a 11 952 $l KTPC296 $d 20240521011159.0 952 $l GZPE631 $d 20240305021640.0 952 $l UGPF911 $d 20231207014859.0 952 $l TDPH826 $d 20230802010948.0 952 $l GBPF771 $d 20230504010157.0 952 $l YSPD232 $d 20221203071907.0 952 $l UJPE911 $d 20220729011216.0 952 $l BNPD611 $d 20220527010340.0 952 $l CAPH522 $d 20220510011738.0 952 $l KSPG296 $d 20220420010141.0 952 $l BAPH771 $d 20220316010107.0 956 $a http://locator.silo.lib.ia.us/search.cgi?index_0=id&term_0=56931B74A4EE11ECAB2946E12AECA4DB 994 $a C0 $b IOUInitiate Another SILO Locator Search