"Grudges, when held correctly, are an essential part of a healthy psychological diet. With contributions from expert psychotherapists as well as extracts from her own extensive catalog of grudges, Sophie Hannah investigates the psychological origins of grudges and also offers not-so-obvious insights into how we should acknowledge--and embrace--them in order to improve the quality of our interpersonal relationships and senses of self. Grudges do not have to fill us with hate or make us toxic, bitter, and miserable. If we approach the practice of grudge-holding in an enlightened way, it will do the opposite--we will become more forgiving. Practical, compassionate, and downright funny, How to Hold a Grudge reveals everything we need to know about the many different forms of grudge, the difference between a grudge and not-a-grudge (not as obvious as it seems), when we should let a grudge go, and how to honor a grudge and distill lessons from it that will turn us into better, happier people--for our own benefit and for the sake of spreading good and limiting harm in the world.
Contents:
Grudges can be great! -- What grudges are, what they aren't and what they should be -- The many different kinds of grudge -- How to grade a grudge -- Grudge is all around us -- Why we hold grudges--and why some people don't -- The grudge-fold path -- How to convert negative grudge energy into positive grudge energy -- Bad and invalid grudges -- The "grudget': managing your grudge budget -- How to be a responsible grudge-holder -- Other grudge stories--a very short anthology.
Summary:
Argues that readers can use grudge-holding to be their happiest, most optimistic, and most forgiving selves.
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