The Power of discord : why the ups and downs of relationships are the secret to building intimacy, resilience, and trust / by Ed Tronick, PhD, and Claudia M. Gold, MD.
Includes bibliographical references (pages 253-266) and index.
Contents:
Introduction: origins -- Repair as food for the soul -- Aiming for good enough -- Feeling safe to make a mess -- Stopping the blame game -- Resilience reconsidered -- Games we play : learning to belong -- Technology and the still-face paradigm -- When meaning goes awry -- Healing in a mosaic of moments over time -- Finding hope in uncertainty -- Through discord to connection and belonging.
Summary:
How can we create more meaningful and intimate connections with our loved ones? By using moments of discord to strengthen our relationships, explains this original, deeply researched book. You might think that perfect harmony is the defining characteristic of healthy relationships, but the truth is that human interactions are messy, complicated, and confusing. And according to renowned psychologist Ed Tronick and paediatrician Claudia Gold, that is not only okay, but crucial to our social and emotional development. In The Power of Discordthey show how working through the inevitable dissonance of human connection is the path to better relationships with romantic partners, family, friends, and colleagues. Dr. Tronick was one of the first researchers to show, via 'The Still-Face Experiment', that babies are profoundly affected by their parents' emotions and behaviour. His work, which brought about a foundational shift in our understanding of human development, shows that our highly evolved sense of self makes us separate, yet our survival depends on connection. Working through the volley of mismatch and repair in everyday life helps us form deep, lasting, trusting relationships, resilience in times of stress and trauma, and a solid sense of self in the world. Drawing on Dr Tronick's research and Dr Gold's clinical experience, The Power of Discordis a refreshing and original look at our ability to relate to others and to ourselves.
This resource is supported by the Institute of Museum and Library Services under the provisions of the Library Services and Technology Act as administered by State Library of Iowa.